Contrarian Theory

Since the beginning of time, males have tried to figure out what is going on in the minds of girls. Adam tried to do it with Eve and he eventually got screwed. Every romantic movie ever made is simply trying to depict the impossible struggle that guys have in chasing after girls with a fake Hollywood ending where it works out. This isn't Hollywood and most of us are doomed to the same fate as Adam if we keep going down our current paths. However, I was able to gain some insight and wanted to pass it on to my fellow brothers who are going through the same struggles as myself.

I am going to call this the Contrarian Theory, after the investor theory that invests in stocks that are plummeting and plays against the general market.

Have you ever wondered why girls that you don't like have feelings for you, but that special girl that you like won't give you the time of day? The rationale to this is that girls are different from guys toward what they perceive as the friend zone. If a guy is going after a girl, and the girl puts him in the friend zone, the guy will instantly give up his pursuit and move on toward the next girl. However, when a girl is placed in the friend zone by the guy, it makes the girl more interested in the guy because she is craving that guy's attention. Of course, you still have to be a guy of some romantic value, i.e. clean, nice, a bit charming, etc., but the trick is to not shower the girl with kindness. Instead, you are friends with her and treat her just like you would treat one of your guy friends. Then, when the girl starts to really convey some interest in you, that is when you shower her with niceness. (One additional note: you have to be of close proximity to the girl and see her often for this strategy to work correctly.)

I thought this was a very interesting theory because I was always taught that by showering the girl with niceness from the beginning is the way to go. But, in the girl perspective, that just conveys weakness and a bit annoyance, as they have seen the same routine too many times. For that reason, you can now see why girls are always dating that douchebag or how that girl is dating THAT guy. After dating several girls over my lifetime, I have come to the conclusion that girls don't actually know what they want. If they say they want a nice guy that treats them right, they are in reality attracted to the opposite.

I just wanted to share this tidbit of information with you guys, as I found it to be a very interesting approach.